Mindful Parenting Groups (MPG) is an interactive group workshop designed to enhance parents’ capacity to “read”  babies’ and/or toddlers’ cues and communications.

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Reflective Care Program (RCP) offers tailored trainings to enhance relationships amongst providers and within systems targeting optimal child and family outcomes.

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Reflective Parenting Program (RPP) is an innovative workshop series that engages groups of  parents in an in-depth experiential learning process.

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  • CRC Trainings

    Transforming Parental States of Mind: Reflective Clinical Approaches (CANCELLED)
    Friday, November 16, 2018
    9am-4pm, 6 CE Credits
    Facilitated by: Kevin Gruenberg, PsyD & Melissa Jacobs, PhD
    Click here for more info. Click here to register.

    Making the Most of Reflective Supervision: An Introduction to Reflective Practice
    Monday, December 3, 2018
    8:30am-4:30pm, 7 CE Credits
    Facilitated by: Diane Reynolds, LMFT
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    For more info on all CRC training programs, email: info@reflectivecommunities.org

Reflective Parenting Helps When Your Best Intentions Backfire

Here is a common scenario that occurs in many families. Parents to try to have a discussion with their child about a topic that they assume will be helpful for the child. But the child balks at engaging in the discussion. The parents, feeling armed with good intentions try even harder to have the discussion, because as they say, “We are only trying to be helpful”. The parents end up being frustrated when the child continues to refuse to talk or listen. The topic differs in each family, but the underlying issue remains the same.

Here is an example of how this situation played out in one family. Let’s reflect on why the child refuses to engage and what the parents might do about.

The parents of a middle school girl with a Nonverbal Learning Disability (NLD) ask me for help. They want to teach their daughter about her condition but don’t know how. People with NLD are impaired in their ability to read and interpret non-verbal communication, such as facial expression and body language. This makes it very difficult for them in social situations. They don’t’ ‘get it’ when people are joking or being sarcastic. They can’t sense if a person is signaling discomfort or a friendliness. In this girl’s case, it made it especially hard with peers. She did well in school and had hobbies but had no friends. More

Social Emotional Learning is the natural way for children to succeed

Social skills are what children need to succeed. That’s because social skills contain all the necessary elements that children require in order to regulate their behavior, have emotional well-being, achieve in school, and use later on to do well in the workplace. In a sense, social skills can be thought of as an ‘all-purpose’ learning tool. This idea is catching on in schools, in the form of Social Emotional Learning (SEL) programs.

People often confuse having good social skills as meaning a person is gregarious or has lots of friends. This is not the case at all.  It simply means having the ability to see the perspective of other people and to be able to conform one’s own behavior in order to get along with other people. In fact, you can be shy or introverted and have good social skills. On the other hand, you can be gregarious and have relatively poor socials skills.

SEL teaches the kind of ‘character building’ and stick-to-it-iveness’, parents and teachers wish more children had. Growing numbers of colleges and employers complain too many high schoolers are lacking in these skills, and thus will be less likely to perform as well in adult life.

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Chores are so good for children, it’s worth all the effort parents have to make to get their child to do them.

I realize the issue of chores for children is controversial. Some parents are in favor and some parents believe kids have more important things to do, such as homework and extracurricular activities. I come down on side of childhood chores because a growing body of research indicates just how beneficial they are for children. In fact, these benefits are exactly what Reflective Parenting aims to help parents provide for their child.

  • Having chores as a child leads to children who have greater success and better life skills in the long run
  • Children develop a healthy balance between achievement and caring about others
  • By being a part of the task of taking care of the household a child becomes aware of the needs of others
  • When children see themselves as necessary to the family, it fills that deep desire we all have to feel needed
  • Children who help with family chores have a greater sense of obligation and connectedness to their parents
  • This connection to parents enables them to deal better with life’s stressful moments

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